Coaching @ TLC

Following my certification as a life coach, (specializing in both parenting and ADHD/LD-Learning Disabilities) I am now excited to be offering coaching services. Having been coached myself on numerous occasions, I am inspired to share this enriching and fulfilling experience with you and your children. Based on personal experience, I feel passionate about the value coaching can add to our lives.

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The Learning Circle now offers various coaching services:

  • ADHD/LD Coaching for Children

I work alongside children from as young as age 8, encouraging self-awareness, building self-esteem, and establishing adaptive strategies for such skills as organization, time management, problem -solving skills and social skills. 

  • ADHD/LD Coaching for Teens

I work with teens and young adults, helping them navigate this challenging stage of life. We explore personal strengths and values, build self-esteem, create goals and acquire adaptive strategies for improving organization, time management and social skills. 

  • ADHD Coaching for Adults

This is a collaborative experience, where together we carve out a path of self-awareness, pro activity, self-management and positive thinking. I share tools and develop strategies with you, to reduce the symptoms of ADHD that prevent you from living a full and fulfilling life.

  • Parenting Coaching (for parents with or without children suffering from ADHD)

Together we design an alliance and create an individualized game plan, working to actualize your parenting goals - taking you from the present situation into your optimal future. With my extensive knowledge and insight of ADHD, learning difficulties and their related issues, I feel confident that we can shed some light on the complex puzzle that is your wonderful child. 

  • Life Coaching for Adults

We  address specific personal, professional or relationship projects - successes, general conditions and transitions.We exam what is going on right now, uncovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choose a strategic plan to make your life what you want it to be.

  • Blend of Remedial Instruction with Coaching Tools 

This is a highly specialized option, developed to cater for children and young teens who suffer from AHDH/LD and who would benefit from remedial reading instruction in English. My remedial reading program is suited to students with a short attention span. It is phonics-based, multi-sensory, highly structured and sequential, cumulative and success-orientated. Coaching objectives such as self-awareness, empowerment, values clarification and self-management strategies add to motivation and further successful learning and this new attitude extends beyond English reading, into other subjects and all areas of the child's life. 



 FAQs about Coaching

What is Coaching?

Coaching is a collaborative process between coach and client, with the aim of bridging the gap between where the client presently is, and where they want to be. It is a concrete, practical and creative process. Together we identify goals and formulate a plan of action. In blocks of typically 10-15 sessions, I escort my clients through a tailor-made plan of action, experimenting and tweaking it together with them on their journey to self-fulfillment and self-actualization.

What is ADHD Coaching?

This is a specialized type of coaching, suited to the unique needs of a client with ADHD, given by a coach with extensive knowledge and insight of adhd and related issues.There is still the fundamental belief that the client is naturally creative and resourceful, but this is tempered with the understanding of how a person with ADHD may be struggling in certain realms.(Jodi Sleeper-Triplet)
The coach aids in goal setting, discovery of personal strengths, accepting of limitations, developing social skills and acquiring tools that will allow for more effective habits.

What are the Goals of ADHD Coaching? (Ratey 2002)


  1. Maintaining focus and mental stimulation - creating "positive stress" to achieve goals

  2. Emotional regulation - dealing with negative negative thoughts

  3. Reinforce motivation - breaking down tasks, problem-solving

  4. The role of the coach as"Executive Secretary of Attention" - Providing structure, direction and focus


What is the Process that ADHD Coaching Follows?

  1. Self awareness - of ADHD symptoms and personal attributes:  strengths and areas to strengthen, values and paradigms, habits, personal learning and communication styles.

  2. Pro-activity - developing initiative and resourcefulness, taking personal responsibility, improving flexibility and pursuit of goals, developing creative coping strategies.

  3. Identifying goals  - long and short term goals, envisioning optimal future

  4. Formulating a plan of action - Planning the steps towards achieving the goal, awareness that achieving a goal is a gradual process, setting priorities, taking steps towards the goal on a daily basis.

  5. Perseverance and sticking to goals - Positive thinking and self-talk, encouraging statements, establishing commitment to realizing the goal, evaluating objectives and progress, exploring alternative ways to reach goal, relinquishing unreasonable goals.

  6. Utilizing social support system- seeking support from a position of self-confidence and self advocacy, choosing a suitable environment and managing the environment.

What are the Origins of Life Coaching:

The field of coaching originated from the world of sports coaching - improving sporting ability via evaluation, feedback, demonstration and planning of a training program.

What are the Main Principles of Life Coaching?


  • Investigating how thoughts determine behavior and how one can change one’s beliefs in order to bring about changes in thought and therefore, behavior.  

  • Connecting the coachee to his/her own abilities and strengths as a resource for achieving goals.

  • Viewing all experiences, even mistakes, as learning opportunities.

  • Adapting the process to each individual, according to their personal needs, abilities, aspirations and attitudes.•

What is the Life Coaching Process?


  1. Establishing a collaborative relationship

  2. Working towards self-awareness

  3. Clarifying goals and defining objectives

  4. Building a plan of action by generating options, setting time frames and investigating possible obstacles.

  5. Follow up on execution, reflection and feedback.

  6. Concluding synopsis

How Does Coaching Differ from Therapy?

Life Coaching does not deal with pathology. It starts with the premise that the coachee is essentially whole and has the power within him/herself to bring about change and or reach his/her goals. With therapy, the assumption is that the client is weak and lacking something that must be obtained from an external source, namely, the expertise of the therapist. A coach is there to guide the coachee in drawing out their own internal power and solutions.

In therapy, there is a hierarchical distance in the relationship - therapist as expert, client with pathological need. In coaching, the relationship is more egalitarian. Although the coach may have certain skills, knowledge and training that the coachee is not initially aware of, the two are essentially peers with equal status.

The coaching relationship is collaborative and there is a sense of working together to achieve a goal.  Therapy is based on the fact that the therapist designs and directs the plan for solving problems.

A coachee is expected to be an active partner in the process, whereas a patient is more of a passive being to be “treated”. S/he surrenders to the “expert”, becoming somewhat disempowered; whereas in coaching, the coach empowers the coachee to actively move towards solutions.

Therapy focuses on healing as the goal, and attention is directed at exploring the problem. Therapy is based in the past and the present and asks questions such as “why?” and “from where?” Coaching focuses on actualizing potential as the goal, and attention is directed at exploring solutions. It is present and future focused and asks questions such as “what now?” and “where to?”

How can ADHD Coaching Help ADHD Adults?

"ADHD coaching aims at optimizing and enriching lives, in conjunction with helping to focus on and actualize personal, academic and professional goals. ADHD Coaching offers a structure, guidelines, tools, support and encouragement to circumvent the difficulties in executive function and pursuing goals."(ADDA - Attention Deficit Disorder Association)  


An ADHD coach provides support and structure in the client’s journey to success and self actualization, encouraging accountability for their actions and offering strategies for symptoms that negatively impact the client’s life.

How can ADHD Coaching Help Young People?

"ADHD Coaching can help with organization and time management skills. The client can learn prioritization and how to regulate focus and concentration. S/he can learn how to track effects of and optimize medication. S/he can learn independence and self-advocacy skills, create an effective working space, S/he can develop effective social skills, manage ADHD issues at home and at school." (Empowering Youth with ADHD, Jodi Sleeper-Triplet, 2010)

Copyright 2013 Alana Stern